Shambhala Sun Home Free Gift with Order Current Issue Subscribe & Save Half Give a Gift Renew Current Text
spacer
spacer
spacer spacer spacer

spacer






spacer spacer
Leonard Cohen burns, and we burn with him (May 2013) Print

Shambhala Sun | May 2013

Leonard Cohen burns, and we burn with him


“God is a fire,” said Nikos Kazantzakis. “He burns and we burn with Him.” Art, passion, and Zen are fires too—burning the self, leaving behind only ashes and essence. They burn in Leonard Cohen’s heart, says his admirer PICO IYER, and light up the darkness for us.

In his great book of changes and homemade koans, Silence, John Cage defines the purpose of music. “Music is edifying,” the devoted student of D.T. Suzuki wrote, “for from time to time it sets the soul in operation. The soul is the gatherer-together of the disparate elements (Meister Eckhart), and its work fills one with peace and love.” We have, of course, soul music, and who can resist the transports of the Reverend Al Green or Aretha Franklin? But we also have a more reserved and serene music that is of, for, and from the soul. As Cage notes a little earlier in his book, a musician once wanted to give up his art and become a full-time disciple of Swami Ramakrishna. “Remain a musician,” his teacher said. “Music is a means of rapid transportation."

The music of Leonard Cohen is not notably rapid. A friend recently told me that he mistakenly played a Billy Joel record too slow, at sixteen rpm, and the result sounded uncannily like Cohen. And Cohen’s music is not obviously transporting, in the way that U2 can be, with their building chords of imminence, or the otherworldly post-verbal soundscapes of the Icelandic band Sigur Ros. Leonard Cohen takes you in, not up. Some might even say his songs are not always music; my Japanese wife runs out of the room whenever I put on late Cohen because to her it sounds too much like the Buddhist chanting she grew up hearing through the hills of Kyoto at dusk.

But Cohen’s gatherings-together are unambiguously about the soul—its terrors, its betrayals, its hesitations, its longing to give itself over. A casual listener notices how often the singer uses the word “naked.” A fledgling Cohenite hears him saying, “I need to see you naked in your body and your thought.” But the person who lives with the songs realizes that what makes the writer special is that he’s not rendering others naked, but himself.

After he met the Zen master Joshu Sasaki Roshi—in 1969, just as he began his recording career—and started sitting with him, Cohen’s commitment to silence and obedience grew so strong that, by 1984, he was giving us his plangent, classic psalm, “If It Be Your Will,” in which (like Ramakrishna’s disciple) he seemed ready to give up even the speech and song by which he offered himself to the world if his master so wished it.

“Soul” is not a word to use in Buddhist discourse, of course, but there’s no doubting that Cohen would echo many of the sentiments of that other unsparing Zen student, Cage: “People say sometimes, timidly: I know nothing about music but I know what I like. But the important questions are answered by not liking only but disliking and accepting equally what one likes and dislikes. Otherwise there is no access to the dark night of the soul.

Or, as Cage also put it: “I have nothing to say and I am saying it.”

It's one of the unexpected beauties of the age that Leonard Cohen, rather suddenly, has begun to enjoy his fourth—or fifth—Indian summer, to the point where everyone I run into, from Singapore to Melbourne and Kyoto to New York, seems to be talking about him or attending to his messages in the dark. For those who have begun to despair of our celebrity culture, this is a typically Cohenesque instruction in the dismantling of celebrity and the deeper meaning of culture. After he found out, in 2005, that his longtime much-trusted manager seemed to have made off with nearly all his savings, rendering him a poor man, he went on the road again, at the age of seventy-three, and performed 250 three-hour concerts from Istanbul to Hanging Rock, deep into his seventy-seventh year. The more he deferred to his accompa- nying musicians onstage, the more audiences were moved and impressed with him (a rock star who was offering humility and attentiveness?); the more he sang, unflaggingly, about sickness, old age, and death, the more listeners started taking him as a guide to life, the rare spiritual being who didn’t seem to be peddling any creed or presenting himself as anything other than mortal.

In his mid-seventies, Cohen’s old song “Hallelujah” took over the number one and number two spots in the British charts, and a host of American Idol-style cover versions made it the fastest- selling Internet download in European history. The record he made last year, with the deliberately ungrabby title of Old Ideas, was number one in seventeen countries and reached the top five in nine others. The result has been incongruities as rich in irony and surprise as any of Cohen’s songs about the future: amid the glittery singles bars and temples to conspicuous consumption of the Los Angeles Live entertainment center, I walked not long ago into a Starbucks and was greeted by the album being featured that week: the work of an ordained Zen monk mumbling about how “None of us is deserving the cruelty or the grace.”

When people learn that I’ve been lucky enough to spend a little time with the man, they often want to hear more. All I can say is: “Leonard Cohen is like one of those old Eastern poets of whom he’s been writing for half a century or more—alone in his simple hut on the top of a mountain, with a pen and paper and a bottle of wine nearby. Perhaps also, in the case of this unorthodox hermit, a beautiful woman.”

Part of what fascinates so many about Cohen is the mixture of intimacy and elusiveness: few writers render themselves so seemingly open and unadorned on the page, and yet few offer so rich a sense of having no interest in explaining anything away. It’s as if—like many of our deepest artists, from Emily Dickinson to Melville—the more he sits still in a room, plumbing the secrets of the interior, the more he sees how much externals are beyond his grasp. If he’s always evinced a keen, tough-minded, unyielding interest in control, it’s because he knows how much cannot be controlled, in love or faith or solitude.

One of the beauties of Sylvie Simmons’ new Cohen biography, I’m Your Man, which instantly becomes the definitive sourcebook for all material on the man, is that she brings to Cohen much of the discretion, perceptiveness, tight focus, and wit that he brings to the world. The deeper strength is that she doesn’t just dig up Cohen’s water-safety certificate in summer camp, or point out that he recorded parts of his first album in the same converted Greek– Armenian Orthodox Church where Miles Davis recorded Kind of Blue. She traveled everywhere to speak to more than a hundred of the singer’s oldest associates. Nearly every one, whether child- hood playmate or former lover, cousin, or record producer, independently presents us with a portrait of an uncommonly courtly, gracious, and impeccable soul who’s never liked to be at the center of attention and who, having grown up with great wealth and expectation, has always hungered for less.

“He’s humble, but also fierce,” says Rebecca de Mornay, his onetime love. “He has this subtext of ‘Let’s get down to the truth here. Let’s not kid ourselves.’” Marianne Ihlen, the Norwegian beauty who shared a simple room on the Greek island of Hydra with him, says, “He was a gentleman, and he had that stoic thing about him and that smile he will try to hide behind: ‘Am I serious now or is all this a joke?’” If a man is known by the company he keeps, Cohen seems to have found—or helped encourage—people who reflect back his elevation and determination to see things on a larger canvas. And he has remained as unswervingly loyal to them as they, in pretty much every case, have been to him.

Cohen was raised, as Simmons aptly points out,“in a house of suits.” His father was the very proper owner of a high-end clothing business who became one of the first Jewish commissioned officers in the Canadian Army, his mother a Russian rabbi’s daughter who was warm, volatile, and occasionally subject to depression. That mix of formality and emotionalism is what gave his work its edge, its polish from the beginning; here was a passionate man in a fancy suit. And his deep sense of connection to his priestly forebears—his grandfather was president of a synagogue—seems to have left Cohen with an innate respect for discipline and ceremony, steadfast Judaic roots that have allowed him to bring Jesus and the Buddha and St. Paul into his songs of longing.

It’s hard not to feel, in fact, that he was made for the Zen life from the outset, with his devotion to ritual and order, his love of simple spaces, his concentration upon essentials. Part of what makes him so hard to catch is that he’s always one step ahead of you in his thinking (dismissing “charismatic holy men” just as you’re about to accuse him of following—or even being—one), but what keeps him so close to us, what allows us to feel he’s speaking to us, is the directness with which he takes that very tendency to task.

The other force that formed him, surely, is Canada, which grounded him in an ideal mix of Old World and New or, in Simmons’ nice phrase, “archaic language...with contemporary irony.” He’s always seemed to live at a distance from himself and been ready to play with masks in a way that’s less familiar—more threatening, perhaps—to many below the forty-ninth parallel.

Those who have thrilled to his recent tours may be surprised to learn that both stage fright and a genuine lack of confidence in his singing have often made live performances an ordeal for him. Before his first tour, he had his oldest friend, a sculptor, make a mask for him—a “live death mask,” in Simmons’ phrase—though in the end he never wore it, perhaps because he’d perfected a persona that was distraction enough.

After his father died, when Cohen was nine, he was left in a house of women—his sometimes mercurial and, as he put it, “Chekhovian” mother and his elder sister. In his yearbook at Westmount High School (where he was a cheerleader), he wrote: “Ambition: World Famous Orator...Prototype: the little man who is always there.” Not long thereafter, falling in with a group of raffish Montreal writers, he established himself within a few years as the country’s leading young poet and a wild Joycean novelist. He’s only been comfortable, it’s tempting to think, when stuck in no set position, far from any fixed self. When recording in Nashville, Cohen used a Jew’s harp on more than half the cuts he made; touring with his backup group across Europe in 1979 and 1980, he would lead the others in a monastic chant in Latin—Pauper Sum Ego (“I Am a Poor Man”)—while Joshu Sasaki sat quietly reading in the back of the tour bus. The first time he met Sasaki Roshi, the small Zen master, now 105 years old, who set up the first Rinzai center in the U.S., Cohen was most impressed that the teacher spoke at a friend’s wedding about the ten vows of Buddhism, one of which forbids drugs and alcohol, and then devoted himself to drinking down one cup of sake after another. Recently, however, that same tendency has brought Sasaki more and more controversy and criticism as female students have came forward with stories of longstanding sexual misconduct. Yet underneath all the surfaces and gambits Cohen is someone rock solid at the core: after his then 18-year-old son, Adam, was involved in a serious car crash in 1990, Cohen spent the better part of four months at his boy’s bedside in a Montreal hospital, often reading aloud from the Bible. He’s “developed the tenacity and character to sit still within the suffering,” de Mornay says, and even though he’s never been shy of sex and drugs—extending acid to one woman on the tip of his white handkerchief— he’s never seemed to kid himself that running from the truth will solve anything. His songs rarely give himself the benefit of the doubt, but also don’t spend too much time wondering where the arrow in his side came from. Simmons has worked heroically, for more than ten years, to unearth every detail and to evoke every Cohen setting from the Chelsea Hotel to his monastic cabin. But perhaps her greatest strength, as she clears the ground around Cohen, is to leave a space in the middle as rich and enigmatic as an empty chair. More than presuming to tell us who Cohen is, she often—and usefully—tells us who he isn’t, how far he lives from our projections and myths.

He was never, for one thing, a rebel, even though he’s always gone his own way; he ignores revolutionaries as much as he ignores the status quo they’re reacting against. He never felt at home amid the looseness of the Beats nor what he saw as the naïveté of the hippies (he was more in his element, she suggests, amid the urban experiments of Warhol’s Factory). He has never been a pacifist or vegan or New Ager. Touring Europe in 1970, he named his supporting band the Army, and three years later, he went to Israel the day after the Yom Kippur War broke out. Hoping to enlist, he ended up performing up to eight concerts a day for Israeli soldiers around the desert; he once—perhaps in part to provoke and evade those who would pin an idea on him—confessed to a “deep interest in violence.”

At the same time, he’s never been the dour or humorless soul some imagine from the songs; everyone who knows him testifies to his being, as one backup singer says, “one of the funniest people I’ve ever met.” And a large part of his magnetism comes from his ability to efface himself. “He moves into leadership naturally,” a friend since boyhood, Nancy Bacal, points out, “except that he remains invisible at the same time. His intensity and power operate from below the surface.” When asked to draw a portrait of his vital organs in a book in which many others had done the same, he simply wrote, “Let me be the shy one in your book.” Yet his songs strip him bare in public with a lack of shyness few other artists would dare.

The confiding air, on record, in person, draws you in, but that closeness is best enjoyed so long as you remember the distances that remain. Women have always been the ones to respond most intensely to Cohen’s seeming openness and vulnerability, and not be distracted by his strategies and fine words. It was women who first gave his songs prominence—Judy Collins, Nico, Buffy Sainte-Marie—and it’s Sharon Robinson and Anjani Thomas who have cowritten many of his songs in recent years. His sound engineer for almost four decades, unusually for the profession, is a woman, Leanne Ungar. His gruff croak has always been decorated— made musical—by the high sweet chime of female voices in the background.

More deeply, it is women who have always been wisest to the competing demands of the singer and the man, as he hungers for company and adventure even while needing to be alone, longs for surrender even as (in Simmons’ fine formulation) he always needs “freedom, control, and an escape hatch.” The biographer excavates some of his searching letters (often to say good-bye) to Marianne, and tracks down the Suzanne of his famous song (now living in a wooden caravan in Santa Monica and writing her autobiography by hand). She extracts beautiful sentences from Suzanne Elrod, the mother of Cohen’s son and daughter, and talks to his recent partner, Anjani Thomas, in part about the difficulties of such a solitary perfectionist being involved in such a collaborative exercise as music. From all of them she seems to have picked up a spirit of wry devotion, of being alert to his maneuvers and his needs and yet ready to forgive much, precisely because he remains such an honorable and often selfless character.

As Joni Mitchell put it, indelibly, in “A Case of You”:

I met a woman
She had a mouth like yours
She knew your life
She knew your devils and your deeds
And she said “Go to him, stay with him if you can
But be prepared to bleed”

What distinguishes Leonard Cohen from most is that he has made a special art out of both his fallenness and his grasp of a higher perspective. He’s given sorrowful and lasting voice to what happens when the self dissolves, even as he’s never denied that his own self may still be fractious and disobedient and ready to turn on its better side. When being in the monastery got too much for him, he’d get into his car and slip off to a McDonald’s down the mountain for a Filet-O-Fish before heading home to watch TV (often The Jerry Springer Show), until the antsiness had been worked out of his system. At the same time, one of the most charismatic and sought-after singers in the world has spent decades driving his aged Zen teacher to doctors’ appointments and fetching him chicken soup.

The remarkable thing about Cohen’s recent work is that he can hold a hundred thousand people captive at a concert in Glastonbury, England, by singing of emptiness and the self as nothing but smoke. More than many a Zen writer, from Gary Snyder to, in fact, John Cage, he harks back to the classic Eastern tradition of devoting most of his late work to death. Cage, for example, wrote beautifully about the clarity that arises out of meditation and how “the acceptance of death is the source of all life”; Cohen pushes even further, toward not just an accepting, but a shrugging embrace of extinction. He employs the self to cut through the self—writing so personally, he touches some impersonal core in us—and he voices the truths of meditation while always acknowledging that he’s not in full possession of them (he begins his most recent album by mocking any claims to being a “sage” or “man of vision,” and admitting rather to being a “lazy bastard living in a suit”). When people acclaim him as a wise man today, it’s partly because he seems so alert to his follies; when they reach toward him for his radiance and strength, it’s not least because he is so acutely aware of how soon radiance and strength will give out.

Whenever I spend time with Leonard Cohen, I’m spellbound by the droll gravitas, the warmth, the constant solicitude, and the extraordinary gift with words. But when I come away from the small house in a very rough part of Los Angeles that he shares with his daughter and grandson, I realize I’ve been most moved by what you don’t hear so much on the records: his deep commitment to his kids, the seriousness and voraciousness of his reading, especially on matters of the spirit, the depth of his silences. Many a visitor finds herself just sitting with him in his small garden, saying nothing, enjoying a communion deeper than personality or intention.

I look at him from one angle and see the flawlessly cool and stylish heartthrob who made my wife weak at the knees just by offering her a cigarette. I look at him from another angle and see a very shy, bookish boy with a mischievous, rather sheepish grin. The man who has everything has always longed, it seems, to be—to have—nothing.

In the end , of course, what matters—as Cohen himself would most eloquently stress—is the work, not the man. And from the beginning, Cohen’s two themes have been suffering and seeing things as they are, the latter a particularly urgent concern for one who feels so strongly a hunger for romance. Some writers—Gary Snyder, say, or Jim Harrison—have drawn upon their Zen practice to express a wide-awake, embracing transcription of all that the natural world might offer us, in its mixed beauty and capriciousness; others—such as Peter Matthiessen or Cage— have gravitated more toward the austere elevation and cutting away of illusions that Zen study fosters, as if to pare away at every excess until what remains is what is, nothing more, nothing less.

Cohen, by nature and background, clearly belongs with the latter group, and has never been interested in “first thought, best thought.” He labors over songs for more than a decade and will keep making changes and adding twenty-second thoughts till the very last minute. More than eighty notebooks went into “Hallelujah.” What he’s brought to the expression of the Zen tradition is an undistracted and sophisticated psychological acuity. Insofar as Zen can try to break down our attachments to theories and notions of the self, through hard labor and relent- less discipline, Cohen has been as unwavering a student as any, finding in the monastery a perfect way to be alone in company and to unearth a silence that’s “communicative.” Yet he habitually refers to Zen as a “hospital for the broken-hearted,” and the words he uses again and again in his songs are “panic” and “bewilderment.”

He gives us a sense of what Zen training leads toward, in other words, but he never glosses over the anger and confusion that brought him to it and remain. That’s why, even after thirty years of hanging out with Sasaki, he still felt the need to come down from the mountain and amplify the teaching elsewhere. By early 1999, Cohen had been a monk for five and a half years, and all he felt was a depression and emptiness as deep as any, befit- ting one who’d “come to the end of the road.” His rigor and his restlessness refuse to settle for easy answers and I was impressed, talking to him in his monastery, when he told me that he had no real interest in making music again, and that he’d given up smoking and would never go to India because of its indiscipline and disorder. When I saw him four months later, he had a synthesizer in his cabin and a cigarette in his hand and, not many seasons on, he was spending five months at a stretch in India.

Some of the most moving passages in Simmons’ book describe Cohen’s trips to Mumbai to sit every morning at the feet of Romesh Balsekar, the late former bank president who used to give informal talks on nondualism every morning in his apartment. The wandering rock star stayed in an anonymous two-star hotel and occasionally took friends to an unassuming tea stall; he declined every invitation from the rich and famous, but at one point went to a taxi driver’s home in the slums. He never went in for psychology, Simmons (herself British) points out, because “his dignity and an almost British stiff upper lip” forbade it, but he put himself through even more intense challenges in trying to break through divisions in the self and in the world.

The other thing that comes across, again and again, is his kindness. We read of his driving across L.A. to help a receptionist he didn’t know well find her long-haired cat (and then ministering to the cat close-up, chanting into its forehead, even as his allergy to cats reduced him to sniffling and tears). He’s always tended to others with a gentleness and thoroughness he hasn’t often extended to himself. At the National Film Board of Canada, I once heard about a street person who’d been suddenly admitted to hospital. When the doctors asked him how he’d pay for his treatment, he kept on saying, blithely, “My friend Leonard will take care of it.” The physicians took this as further proof of derangement—until the checks started regularly arriving, signed, “Leonard Cohen."

In the realm of song, it’s his unflinchingness, mingled with his polished depth and craft, that will make him endure. Bob Dylan gives us riddles, often to throw us off his trail. Leonard Cohen gives us riddles that take us deeper and deeper into the heart of things, and the paradoxes he chooses to embody on our behalf: the fact that we cannot always resolve our longing for love and the sensual world with the need to find our own truth; the fact that we know the truth of impermanence but hide from it at every other moment; the way we break every rule we’ve made for ourselves and then pretend it’s somebody else’s fault. “Let me cry Help beside you, Teacher,” he was writing way back in 1961.

What he’s done, as man and artist, is to express his most anguished feelings in a formal frame that gives them both precision and suggestiveness. And seem to take everything seriously except himself (which means he can’t take seriously his taking of everything seriously, either—another reason, perhaps, why he’s always been highly popular in Europe, and fairly popular in Canada, but often failed to find an audience in the U.S.).

The deeper you go into the self—and its erasure—the more, I suspect, you will get from Cohen. The name Sasaki gave him, “Jikan,” often mistranslated (not least by me), is rendered by Simmons as “the silence between two thoughts.” When the singer Ronee Blakley referred to the little black-robed Japanese man who sat in on some Cohen recording sessions in 1977, she called him “the kind of man you wanted to be around, funny, kind, and disciplined.” That sounds like an unusually good description of Cohen, too.

If you really want to know who the man is, though, and who he isn’t, the only place to turn is the songs. Everything is provisional, they tell us, and in our suffering lies our truth. “Earth has no escape from Heaven,” as Eckhart put it, and we can’t expect to find holiness anywhere or expect not to find it either. Death is round the corner, the jig is up, and that’s what enables us to see, to briefly cherish the light. “You have to sit in the very bonfire of [your] distress,” Cohen told a visitor to Mount Baldy, “and you sit there till you’re burned away and it’s ashes and it’s gone.” Few artists have given us the burning and the ashes and the going with such clarity. In his burning, Cohen lights the darkness up.

 



From the May 2013 Shambhala Sun magazine. To see what else is in this issue, click here.

To order a copy of this issue, click here.

Photo by Charla Jones

Americans in Paris (May 2013) Print

Shambhala Sun | May 2013

Americans in Paris


Though the climb was steep, the view was expansive. RACHEL NEUMANN on being hot, hungry, thirsty, and tired, but still having a perfect day.

Perhaps you know what it’s like loving someone so much and with such astonishment at their complicated and fragile existence that you rashly promise them something you have no hope of delivering, such as a trip to the moon or a visit to the top of the Eiffel Tower at midnight. My eldest daughter, Luna, was three years old and fascinated by pictures of the Eiffel Tower when I made such a promise.

“Someday,” I told her, “we’ll go there together.”

“When?” she asked.

I should have said, “When the right conditions manifest. Instead I said, “When you are seven.” By then, I figured, she’d have forgotten all about it. She would be obsessed with horses or soccer or something else more accessible.

I was wrong. Every birthday, she reminded me that she was one year closer to our big trip. Every time she saw the tower on a T-shirt, a bag, or a poster, she’d drag me over to stare. Then, unfairly and without warning, she turned seven. We were still in Oakland, our suitcases gathering dust in the basement. I had to explain that there was going to be a slight delay; we would make it to Paris, I assured her, but I couldn’t say exactly when. We would have to wait for the right conditions to manifest.

Two and a half years later, they did. It was the thirtieth-anniversary celebration of Plum Village, Thich Nhat Hanh’s Zen monastery in southern France, and I was invited to attend. We could stay in Paris for a couple of days, then take the train to Plum Village. My seventy-two-year-old mother, a student of Vipassana meditation with four years of high school French, was available to come and help with the kids. I had enough reward miles to get at least one of us a plane ticket. Plum, my youngest daughter, was old enough to lug her own suitcase around without help. It was time to go.

We borrowed a flat in Montparnasse and slept on thin mattresses on the floor. The Eiffel Tower was in our sight lines, but there were still hurdles. One of the elevators to the top of the tower was broken. Advance tickets had sold out months before. There was a two-and-a-half-hour wait to get into the tower’s middle floor, then another long line to the one elevator to the top. We were all jet-lagged, and both kids were developing colds. We went anyway.

We arrived at 7:30 p.m. with a backpack full of water, sweat- shirts, and the last of our carefully hoarded pretzels from the plane. We settled into the back of a line that spanned the plaza and spilled down the sidewalk. I heard snippets of Japanese, French, English, Spanish, German, and other languages I couldn’t recognize.

In less than thirty minutes, we were restless. Luna needed to pee. Plum was thirsty. My mother, who had been trooping all around Paris, wasn’t feeling well and needed to sit down. I glanced longingly at the grass nearby. My mom could rest and I could go with the girls to take care of their needs, but we’d lose our much-coveted place in what was now a three-hour line.

Then I noticed the person waiting in front of us. He was a solidly built man in his mid-seventies, with pale skin and a balding crew cut. He wore khakis, mirrored aviator sunglasses, a button- down shirt, a silver fighter-jet pin, and a slight frown. American, I guessed, but a culturally different kind of American than we were. I doubted that we had much in common.

Still, needing a little help, I said hello. It turned out his name was Jim and he worked at an Air Force base only a few hours from where we live in California. He was in Paris on his honey- moon and was waiting for his wife. He offered to keep our place in line for as long as we needed, and we rushed to the bathroom while my mom made a grateful beeline for the grass.

When we came back, Jim’s wife, Linda, had joined him. She had a warm smile and short gray hair and cheerfully told us that the whole honeymoon trip had been a big surprise. She hadn’t even known where they were traveling until they got to the airport. But when she looked up at the Eiffel Tower, Linda’s smile disappeared. She was terrified of heights, she admitted, and didn’t even like going to the second floor of most buildings. 

By the time we had got near the front of the line, we had become one group with our line mates. When I took Plum to find some water and the guard didn’t want to let us back in the line, Jim and Linda protested. When we finally got to the front and they tried to put us in two separate groups, we linked arms, refusing to be separated.

As soon as we were packed into the elevator, all of Luna’s excitement evaporated. She has a fear of elevators and hadn’t quite understood that traveling in one was a required part of reaching the top of the tower. But while Luna was a little scared, Linda was petrified. As the closed metal box began to rise, she shut her eyes tight and held Luna close. When we got to the middle floor of the tower and the elevator opened, Linda tumbled out, taking deep breaths of the fresh cool air. Soon she and her husband were lost in the crowd and we threaded our way to the guardrail, where we could look down from our great height at the city below. Paris in the last of the evening light.

Brightly lit boats made their way down the Seine, and I could make out the gargoyles guarding the top of Notre Dame. At that moment, the yellow lights of the tower itself started flashing, and Luna and Plum’s gasps of amazement could be heard even over the clicks of the hundreds of cameras.

I looked at the lengthy line still ahead of us, which snaked all along the platform toward the next ticket line and elevator that would take us to the top. We’d started our journey at the bottom over four hours ago. Now we’d run out of water and snacks and we were hot and grimy—our clothes were sticking to our skin. Though no one had voiced a single complaint, Plum’s eyelids were sagging and Luna was starting to list to one side. The kids were both sneezing regularly. “Anyone want to go home?” I asked hopefully. “No way,” they chorused without a second’s hesitation. My mom remained silent. She had the grim look in her eyes of a mountain climber who had nowhere to go but up.

We got into the next line, settling into another hour wait. The middle floor of the tower wasn’t large, and we were corralled between two narrow metal railings that zigzagged back and forth, as if we were in line for a popular ride at an amusement park. We were also sandwiched in the middle of a large group of chain-smoking French teenagers who continuously jostled and bumped each other in the hopes of getting as much “accidental” physical contact as possible. I sagged against the metal railing and considered taking a nap on the dirty concrete floor. As I looked for an escape route or a place to lie down, I saw Linda and her husband walk past. Linda’s head was down, her gaze focused anywhere but out, and she stuck close to Jim, so that the whole side of his body shielded her view of the edge. Linda’s face was rosy and shiny with sweat and Jim’s broad shoulders slumped, but when we waved them over to say hello they told us that they too were determined to reach the top.

“Join us,” I called, and it wasn’t just a polite gesture. Somehow over the course of our epic waiting, we’d started to need each other for moral support. But our new friends were stuck on the other side of the metal railing. To get to us, they would need to duck and swing under the hip-high metal bar. Somewhere behind us, a baby, up way past bedtime, started to wail. Jim bent down and with a hunched shuffle crossed under the railing but Linda stood there frozen, torn between her fear of heights and the desire to be with our group. The French teenagers began a raucous version of the French national anthem. The baby’s piercing wails quieted to indignant whimpers. Linda took a deep breath, threw her purse and her jacket to her new husband, then in one graceful move swung under the bar like a fearless child on the playground. We reached out and caught her, pulling her toward us.

Exhausted and parched but all together and smiling, we arrived at the top of the tower at half-past midnight. Paris, cool and lovely in the dark gray night, sparkled below us. In between yawns, we oohed and aahed and took pictures. We peered down at the plaza, now nearly empty, the ticket booth and snack bar shuttered for the night. Luna took a last picture of herself and Linda, arms raised in triumph, just a couple of feet from the edge. And then we said good-bye to our new friends, exchanging numbers, heartfelt hugs, and sincere wishes for each other’s health and happiness. The triumph of our successful ascent gave Luna and Plum a last injection of energy, and they skipped and sang the whole long way back down to the ground.

I am often tempted to offer my kids the comfort of illusions—the lightness and sparkle of a Parisian tower, the reassurance that if they want, they can become astronauts and travel to the moon. But the tower is made of cold solid metal and takes hours to climb. The surface of the moon is pocked and airless and their astronaut selection unlikely. Instead, I can offer them the reminder that while life is difficult and lines are long, we are buoyed by openness to other human beings. There is a gift in the unexpected gracefulness of a former stranger turned friend, an older woman acknowledging her fear and swinging with abandon into our waiting arms.

It was past 1:30 in the morning when we finally returned to our French flat and collapsed on our little mattresses. “What did you think, Luna?” I whispered to her, as I gratefully turned toward sleep. “It was perfect,” she said.

Rachel Neumann is the editorial director of Parallax Press, the publishing arm of Zen master Thich Nhat Hanh’s community, and the author of Not Quite Nirvana: A Skeptic’s Journey to Mindfulness. She lives in the Bay Area and writes regularly on the intersections of mindfulness, parenting, politics, and the mess of daily life. Her work appears in The Village Voice, AlterNet, and other publications.



Excerpted from the May 2013 Shambhala Sun magazine. To see what else is in this issue, click here.

To order a copy of this issue, click here.


Photo by Serge Melki / flickr.com

 

It Starts from Zero (May 2013) Print

Shambhala Sun | May 2013

It Starts from Zero

Emptiness and interdependence—they’re more than concepts; they’re key to realizing real-world benefits in our lives. HIS HOLINESS THE KARMAPA helps us put our wisdom into practice.

How do you relate to this infinite ground of possibility that your life is built on? How can you create a meaningful life within whatever shifting circumstances you find yourself?

Buddhist thought devotes a great deal of attention to these questions. The view that life holds infinite possibility is explored using the concepts of “interdependence” and “emptiness.” When you first hear the term “emptiness,” you might think this suggests nothingness or a void, but actually “emptiness” here should remind us that nothing exists in a vacuum. Everything is embedded within a context—a complex set of circumstances. Those contexts themselves are endlessly shifting. When we say that things are “empty,” we mean they lack any independent existence outside of those changing contexts. Because everything and everyone is “empty” in this sense, they are capable of endless adaptation. We ourselves have the basic flexibility to adapt to anything, and to become anything.

Because of this, we should not mistake emptiness for nothingness. On the contrary, emptiness is full of potency. Understood correctly, emptiness inspires optimism, rather than pessimism, because it reminds us of the boundless range of possibilities of who we can become and how we can live.

Interdependence and emptiness show us that there are no fixed starting points. We can start from nothing. Whatever we have, wherever we are—that is the place we can start from. Many people have the idea that they lack what they need in order to start working toward their dreams. They feel they do not have enough power, or they do not have enough money. But they should know that any point is the right starting point. This is the perspective that emptiness opens up. We can start from zero.

In fact, emptiness can be compared to the concept and function of zero. Zero may seem like nothing, but as we all know, everything starts from it. Without zero, our computers would collapse. Without zero, we could not start counting from one up to infinity. In the same way, from emptiness, anything and every- thing can manifest itself.

Anything can come into being because there is no fixed way for things to be. It all depends on the conditions that come together. But this fact that anything is possible does not imply that life is random or haphazard. We can make anything happen, but we can only do so by bringing together the necessary conditions. This is where the concepts of “emptiness” and “interdependence” come together.

Every person, place, and thing is entirely dependent on others—other people and other things—as a necessary condition for its existence. For example, we are alive right now because we are enjoying the right conditions for our survival. We are alive because of the countless meals we have eaten during our life. Because the sun shines on the earth and the clouds bring rain, crops can grow. Someone tends to the crops and harvests them, someone else brings them to market, and yet another person makes a meal from them that we can eat. Each time this process is repeated, the interdependence of our lives links us with more and more people, and with more and more rays of sun and drops of rain.

Ultimately, there is nothing and no one with whom we are not connected. The Buddha coined the term “interdependence” to describe this state of profound connectedness. Interdependence is the nature of reality. It is the nature of human life, of all things and of all situations. We are all linked, and we all serve as conditions affecting each other.

Amid all the conditions that affect us, in fact, the choices we ourselves make and the steps we take are among the most important conditions that affect what arises from our actions. If we act constructively, what comes into being is constructive. If we act destructively, what results is destructive and harmful. Everything is possible, but also everything we do matters, because the effects of our actions reach far beyond ourselves. For that reason, living in a world of interdependence has very specific implications for us. It means our actions affect others. It makes us all responsible for one another.


Living this Reality

I realize this presentation might initially seem abstract, but emptiness and interdependence are not abstract principles. They are very practical, and have direct relevance when you are thinking about how to create a meaningful life.

You can see interdependence at work by looking at how your own life is sustained. Is it only through your own exertions? Do you manufacture all your own resources? Or do they come from others? When you contemplate these questions, you will see very quickly that you are able to exist only because of others. The clothes you wear and the food you eat all come from somewhere else. Consider the books you read, the cars you ride in, the movies you watch, and the tools you use. Not one of us single-handedly makes any of these things for ourselves. We all rely on outside conditions, including the air we breathe. Our continued presence here in the world is an opportunity made possible entirely by others.

Interdependence means we are continually interacting with the world around us. This interaction works both ways—it is a mutual exchange. We are receiving, but also giving. Just as our presence on this planet is made possible by many factors, our presence here affects others in turn—other individuals, other communities, and the planet itself.

Over the past century, we humans have developed very dangerous capabilities. We have created machines endowed with tremendous power. With the technology available now, we could cut down all the trees on the planet. But if we did so, we could not expect life to go on as before, except without trees. Because of our fundamental interdependence, we would all experience the consequences of such actions very quickly. Without any trees, there would not be enough oxygen in our atmosphere to sustain human life.

You may wonder what this has to do with the choices we make and how we live our life. That is simple: We all need to take interdependence into account because it influences our life directly and profoundly. In order to have a happy life, we must take an active interest in the sources of our happiness.

Our environment and the people we share it with are the main sources of our sustenance and well-being. In order to ensure our own happiness, we have to respect and care about the happiness of others. We can see this in something as simple as the way we treat the people who prepare our food. When we treat them well and look after their needs, only then can we reasonably expect them to take pains to prepare something healthy and tasty for us to eat.

When we have respect for others and take an interest in their flourishing, we ourselves flourish. This can be seen in business as well. When customers have more money to spend, businesses do better. If we wish to flourish individually and together as a society, it is not enough for us to simply acknowledge the obvious interdependence of the world we live in. We must consider its implications, and reflect on the conditions for our own welfare. Where do our oxygen and food and material goods come from, and how are they produced? Are these sources sustainable?

Relating to Reality

Looking at your experience from the perspectives of emptiness and interdependence might entail a significant shift in how you understand your life. My hope is that this shift can benefit you in practical terms. Gaining a new understanding of the forces at work in your life can be a first step toward relating positively to them.

My purpose in raising these issues is certainly not to terrify you by confronting you with harsh reality. For example, I have noticed that some people are uncomfortable when they are told that change is a fundamental part of life, or that nothing lasts forever. Yet impermanence is just a basic fact of our existence—it is neither good nor bad in itself. There is certainly nothing to gain by denying it. In fact, when we face impermanence wisely, we have an opportunity to cultivate a more constructive way of relating to that reality. If we do so, we can actually learn to feel at ease in the face of unexpected change, and work comfort- ably with whatever new situations might occur. We can become more skillful in how we relate to the reality of change. 

The same is true of interdependence. Seeing life from this perspective can help us develop skills to relate more constructively to reality—but just knowing that we are interdependent does not guarantee that we will feel good about being so. Some people may initially find it uncomfortable to reflect that they depend on others.

They might think this means they are helpless or trapped, as if they were boxed in by those dependencies. Yet when we think about being interdependent, we do not need to feel it is like being stuck in a job working for a boss that we did not choose but have to deal with, like it or not. That is not helpful. We should not feel reluctant or pressured by the reality of our interdependence. Such an attitude prevents us from having a sense of contentment and well-being within our own life. It does not give us a basis for positive relationships.

Interdependence is our reality, whether we accept it or not. In order to live productively within such a reality, it is better to acknowledge and work with interdependence, wholeheartedly and without resistance. This is where love and compassion come in. It is love that leads us to embrace our connectedness to others, and to participate willingly in the relations created by our interdependence. Love can melt away our defenses and our painful sense of separation. The warmth of friendship and love makes it easy for us to accept that our happiness is intimately linked to that of others. The more widely we are able to love others, the happier and more content we can feel within the relations of interdependence that are a natural part of our life.

From The Heart is Noble: Changing the World from the Inside Out, by the Karmapa, Ogyen Trinley Dorje, © 2013 by Ogyen Trinley Dorje. Reprinted by arrangement with Shambhala Publications, Inc.

In 1999, at the age of fourteen, the 17th Karmapa, Ogyen Trinley Dorje, made a dramatic escape from Chinese-controlled Tibet. As leader of the Kagyu school of Vajrayana Buddhism, he is unafraid to talk about the environment, vegetarianism, and the role of women—and how Buddhist institutions can align themselves more with the modern world on these issues. Since his escape, the Karmapa has made two trips to the West. Gyuto Tantric University in Dharamsala, India, is his home base.



From the May 2013 Shambhala Sun magazine. To see what else is in this issue, click here.

To order a copy of this issue, click here.

Home Cooking (May 2013) Print

Shambhala Sun | May 2013

Home Cooking

At New York’s Reciprocity Foundation, homeless youth receive nourishment for body and mind alike. Founder TAZ TAGORE explains the program’s recipe for success.

Living in New York City, there is no shortage of joy or suffering. They’re all around you, on a daily basis. As a practicing Buddhist, I strive to see it all clearly, but when I arrive at work, that can get very difficult.

I cofounded a nonprofit called the Reciprocity Foundation, which operates a holistic center for homeless teenagers on the West Side. Some days, the problems that appear in front of us loom so large that it’s hard to really take them in.

Thankfully, homeless youth are generally open to change. Some of our students reconnect with their will to live through yoga classes and meditation retreats. Others awaken their hearts while making a film, listening to a guest speaker, or simply talking quietly with a caring adult. Homeless youth are a wonderful population. They shoulder the consequences of our worst social problems—poverty, drug addiction, bullying, sexual abuse—and are still willing to open their hearts after as little as one pro- found interaction with a loving adult.

For the past seven years we have offered services—both conventional and contemplative—to help homeless youth realize their potential. Because before they can put effort into selecting a vocation, a college program, or a career path, they must first wake up to their own potential. Too many are pushed into school or work before they feel ready, and that’s risky. When disconnected youth are pushed too far, they can disengage further, setting off a vicious cycle of isolation.

But for a long time there was one service we did not offer: meals. Our reasoning was that youth shelters had it covered, providing three meals a day for residents, and soup kitchens distributed brown-bag lunches. We can’t do everything, we told ourselves. We’ll focus on personal transformation and let other agencies focus on food. 

But in 2012, it seemed that more students than ever were complaining of hunger. How can that be? We asked them, and the answers were hard to swallow. The food served at shelters was heavily processed and meager in nutritional value. Sometimes the food didn’t arrive at all, and when it did, it was often cold or late. Some of our students developed rashes or digestive problems after a few months on the “shelter diet.” Others complained of headaches, dizziness, and low energy. Still, I didn’t think Reciprocity should create a meal program—until I met a homeless young girl named Jada.

Jada always wore a scarf around her neck and refused to take off her coat. One day, she told me she had read Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert three times, and wished she could eat what the author ate in Italy because the food would make her happy. “When I eat,” she explained, “I usually feel sick or break out in a rash.” She unwrapped her scarf and showed me the large swath of red pimples that covered her neck. “I have these all over my body, and now I’m scared to eat at the shelter.”

I needed no further convincing: it was time to start a healthy vegetarian meal program. We bought a large slow cooker and began serving homemade vegetarian chilis, soups, and curries to our homeless students. The meals coincided with our evening programs, so students were offered sustenance for body and mind alike.

Jada was a bit suspicious of our vegan concoctions at first. She would ask for a small portion, take one bite, and then find a reason to rush off to check email. “This food won’t hurt your body. I promise,” I’d tell her. It was a few weeks before she would eat a full dinner. “This is good,” she teased, “but I bet the food is even better in Italy.” 

As our vegetarian meal program began to pick up steam, our students began to “wake up” during mealtimes. Those who were prone to drift off or send texts during workshops began to gather around the slow cooker to find out what was in it and how it was being prepared. Students asked questions about vegetarianism, cooking techniques, and the varieties of vegetables and spices in the pot.

We invited students to contemplate their relationship with food. We asked them, How does your body feel when you eat at the shelter? What do you wish for most at mealtimes? “A home-cooked meal” was the answer we expected, but what they actually said was much more powerful. Some students admitted that mealtimes at the shelter provoked “intense loneliness.” One student said she longed “to eat slowly, rather than wolf down my food and run into my room.” A group of youths said they wanted to “talk—you know, really talk” to someone during mealtimes. Jada suggested that we recreate the Thanksgiving meal in Eat, Pray, Love by giving thanks in turn—even when it wasn’t a holiday. Homeless youth, we learned, are starved for both meaning and nutrition.

This fall, we expanded our food program. Reciprocity now offers the largest vegetarian meal program for homeless teenagers and young adults in the country. We are determined to serve food and inspiration, in equal parts, to youth in crisis. To address the inner hunger our students feel, we designed a ritual inspired by Jada’s obsession with Elizabeth Gilbert’s memoir: After taking a seat at the Reciprocity farmhouse table, our students reflect on something for which they are grateful. That might mean giving thanks for a cot at an emergency shelter, or even expressing gratitude for the profound experience of being homeless.

In my line of work, compassion can feel like a strong ache. I hear about a homeless youth’s pain and I want to do something to make it better, so the ache will go away. But the Buddha taught that compassion should be more than a fleeting impulse. We have to keep returning to the well of suffering and drink deeply from it. A year ago, my work at Reciprocity was about trying to fix tiny bits of suffering. Now I am learning to uncover suffering layer by layer and remain open-hearted, even as I see that suffering has no end. Sitting with my students’ hunger, I have learned that it was more vast and complex than I had imagined. But instead of feeling depressed and overwhelmed, I tried to use this view to inspire a more expansive solution. 

Now mealtimes at the Reciprocity Foundation have become opportunities to nourish and rejuvenate homeless youths’ distracted minds and broken hearts. Last week, I listened to Jada giving thanks—not because she’d accomplished her dream of gorging herself in Italy but for her life right here, in a New York City shelter. After giving thanks, she turned to another student, and they began to talk openly and honestly about their lives. Their eyes glistened with hope. At that point, even if the food were to run out, I knew that it would be okay. Our students would still leave our center feeling full.

Taz Tagore is cofounder of the Reciprocity Foundation and has spent nearly twenty years volunteering at youth shelters and working with homeless youth in the U.S., Canada, and India. She lives in New York City, where she tries hard to practice meditation amid the sound of jackhammers, her homeless students’ phones ringing, and her five-year-old daughter’s endless stream of knock-knock jokes.



Excerpted from the May 2013 Shambhala Sun magazine. To see what else is in this issue, click here.

To order a copy of this issue, click here.

Photo: Selassie Samuel

Are We Basically Good? (May 2013) Print

Shambhala Sun | May 2013

Are We Basically Good?

The question of human nature is the most important global issue that we face today, says SAKYONG MIPHAM RINPOCHE. If we conclude that humanity is not basically good— that we do not possess inherent wisdom—what hope does the future hold?

It has been fifty years since my father, Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche, came to the West to introduce his vision of how to create a good human society. On this anniversary, I have been reflecting on the meaning and purpose of his intention, particularly since my life has been integrally mixed with the development of the Shambhala vision.

This contemplation has led me to write The Shambhala Principle: Discovering Humanity’s Hidden Treasure. The book is a first-person narrative revolving around questions I asked my father when I was a child. Whether his responses were direct, poetic, whimsical, or mystical, he continuously returned to the topics of basic goodness and enlightened society.

This book highlights the question Do we, as humans, believe and trust in the basic goodness of humanity, as well as of society? It identifies the question of human nature as the most important global issue that we face today.

Humanity has come to a crossroads—we can either destroy the world or we can create a good future. At this time, there is tremendous doubt regarding the inherent goodness and worthiness of our species. If we draw the conclusion that humanity is not inherently good—that we do not possess inherent wisdom—what hope can the future possibly hold? In that case, it seems inevitable that the forces of fear and doubt will escalate, creating an internal environment that is detrimental to the human mind and heart, as well as to the external environment.

In these challenging times, it is tempting to collapse into our own personal existence, hoping the world’s woes will not affect us too harshly. However, it is difficult for any of us to escape the social and climatic changes that color this particular crossroads. Whether intentionally or not, we are all forced to contemplate the nature of our existence, and more importantly, the nature of humanity. The conclusions we draw will affect our global future.

The Shambhala Principle presents the dialogue I had with my father regarding how basic goodness relates to society, economics, and politics, as well as to health and the environment. Trungpa Rinpoche did not approach basic goodness from a naïve point of view. Before bringing this perspective to the modern world, he had experienced tremendous savagery and degradation while losing his culture and country. But instead of despair and a sense of doom, he saw that human existence does not have to be mired in aggression, selfishness, and deceit. As humans, we have the worthiness to exist on planet Earth. We communicate this by creating good society, expressing genuineness and bravery.

The Shambhala vision teaches that all aspects of life can be approached with appreciation, virtue, strength, and sacredness. This is the principle of warriorship: overwhelming odds do not daunt us. In fact, as more challenges arise, the courage and vigor of the warrior increase. So with the proper training, we are able to see the confusion of this dark age as an opportunity to sharpen our weapons of gentleness, fearlessness, and precision.

Because of my own contemplation of basic goodness, The Shambhala Principle is written as a personal journey. The story opens one morning at a poignant moment in my development, when my father called me into his bedroom. There he gave me a hug and declared that I would be the next Sakyong, a Tibetan term meaning “Earth Protector.” The book describes my coming to terms with this great responsibility—from that pivotal morning to the present. Can I take my father’s instructions and ground my heart and mind in the principle of humanity’s goodness? Can I inspire others to do the same by reflecting on this theme? I examine these challenges. However, this book is not a memoir, nor even a message. Rather, it is an invitation for all of us to reflect on our own basic goodness and the basic goodness of society. Can we rouse our energy and confidence to create a good world that is founded on this principle?

My father taught that the way to effect genuine transformation is not by telling others what to do but by manifesting these principles. Although at times we may feel deficient in our ability to embody basic goodness, even glimpsing such a possibility can have an immediate and profound effect on us, both personally and societally. Even without a full understanding of enlightened society, simply discussing the possibility broadens our horizons.

It is my hope that in such a complicated time, the simplicity of basic goodness can become a true source of guidance. One of the book’s core messages is that how we feel about ourselves has a direct effect on society. Acknowledging our own basic goodness is the grounds for creating a culture. A culture is a community that shares similar values and principles. It is a powerful demonstration of a group’s principles. At the same time, it greatly influences the personal principles of the individuals in the group.

It is clear that in our modern era, the foundations of older cultures are dissolving, even as new ones arise. These intangible shifts are based on the changing values and principles within our global community. Yet even as cultural shifts occur, the nature of humanity remains the same. What leads to a climate of unpredictability is not knowing our intangible nature. It is time for humanity to connect with this universal principle, the basis for all human culture, so that basic goodness can become a healthy and grounding element.

In that light, The Shambhala Principle explores basic goodness not only in Eastern thought but also in Western philosophy and culture, acknowledging that basic goodness has no borders. It has genuine potential to benefit the multicultural nature of our modern geopolitical landscape because it is dynamic, alive, and energetic—the nature of life altogether. With this understanding, basic goodness is not simply a concept to be explored but an immediate and tangible experience that we encounter every time we breathe, smell, touch, or look. Because it is instinctual, it is not a premeditated decision but the essence of our humanity.

When we personally lose contact with what makes us human, we naturally lose touch with the fabric of society, and society devolves into an individualistic struggle where people are disconnected from themselves and others. This leads to a lack of care toward nature and the environment. In contrast, basic goodness is an expression of the natural harmony that exists when humanity connects with its own internal environment. This leads us to connect with the external environment. This is what my father meant by “enlightened society.” In discovering basic goodness, we have a great opportunity to influence how the world moves toward the future. We can use our understanding to create enlightened society.

The Shambhala Principle invites the reader to share my journey by reflecting on these core principles. This journey leads beyond personal transformation, to the understanding that basic goodness is a socially viable principle that could stabilize and transform our world. I hope it will inspire the reader to reflect and to gain courage, exploring the real possibility of effecting social transformation by demonstrating the principle of basic goodness at home, at work, and in society.

Sakyong Mipham Rinpoche is the spiritual leader of Shambhala, an international network of meditation and retreat centers. His new book, The Shambhala Principle: Discovering Humanity’s Hidden Treasure, will be published in May by Harmony.



From the May 2013 Shambhala Sun magazine. To see what else is in this issue, click here.

To order a copy of this issue, click here.

<< Start < Previous 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Next > End >>

Results 10 - 18 of 1285

spacer

spacer
spacer
Subscribe | Current Issue | Search Archives | Contact Us | Spotlight | Privacy Policy | Site Map | Employment
© 2008 Shambhala Sun | Email: magazine@shambhalasun.com | Tel: 902.422.8404 | Published by Shambhala Sun Foundation