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Start with a Flower: Alice Walker & Sharon Salzberg

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Sharon Salzberg:
In speaking about metta practice, or loving-kindness practice, one of the hardest things is not to sentimentalize. Thatís especially hard in our society, where the whole idea of love can be degraded and considered a weakness. But in your books, the power, the actual life force and potency of loving-kindness, comes through so strongly.

Alice Walker:
I think my feeling of loving-kindness is rooted in a very irrepressible spirit that has always been earth-connected. When I was a child I felt so much a part of the countryside, and everything that was in it, that I couldnít avoid the feeling that I had to have been loved very much to find myself there.

So when I came to meditationóI actually started doing TM when I was living in New York after a divorceóit was a kind of going back. Just after being initiated into the training, when I finally sort of got it, I started to laugh, because I recognized where I was. I was back in a place where I had lived as a child, in my spirit, in a very open, spacious, loving place, where I felt totally at peace and in myself.

Later, when I was in another period of great struggle and trial, I read a book of yours about metta practice, and it was wonderful. I was so comforted to have again such a place within my reach. It was that incredible thought that we can care about ourselves and not fall into the pit of thinking that just because life is not working now, thereís something terribly wrong with us. That is what metta has given me, this reassurance that of course we go through incredible periods of stress and pain, but if we hold on to our love of ourselves through it, we can come out the other side.

Sharon Salzberg:
Thereís a teaching in Buddhism that suffering strengthens our faith. Thatís hard to understand, itís hard to even speak about, because so many people are embittered by suffering and are broken by it, rather than renewed by it. Itís finding the transformative quality in the openness that makes all the difference.

Alice Walker:
For me, it is also not having my love and faith in the earth itself broken. Some years ago I experienced having Lyme Disease, which at the time I didnít even know existed, so I just thought I was dying of some mysterious thing that nobody had ever heard of. Then when I realized that this disease was caused by a tick bite, I thought that the earth had kind of turned on me. I had always been such a shameless pagan, out there fornicating in the grass and up the trees and everything, and I felt I had to withdraw from that kind of intimate contact with nature, because nature bites back, I thought. So I went for years with this kind of fear, and only after a very long time did my love for the earth and for nature prove so strong that I just decided that I loved it no matter what it did. And so (laughs), itís been wonderful.

Sharon Salzberg:
In your audiotape, ďMy Life as Myself,Ē you say something like, ďLove makes me look at what I canít stand,Ē which is a tremendous affirmation of the bigness of love.

Alice Walker:
Itís true. I think that feeling had to develop in me because so much of what Iíve had to look at in life is so hard. If I didnít have the love of the people and of the earth and of the life force itself, I couldnít bear it. I couldnít know that children are being subjected to all the things that they are being subjected to. I would just turn away, I think, as many people do. People go into drugs, they go into television, and they go into many things. But you can also go into love.

Melvin McLeod (Editor, Shambhala Sun):
Can I ask what your understanding is of the actual practice of loving-kindness. Many people might hope that they could access such love in their lives, love for themselves and for others, but how does one actually do it?

Alice Walker:
Well, for me it has always been through activism. Iíve been a very contemplative person by nature, and was fortunate enough always to live very far out in the wilds of the country. I think this is where all meditation really comes from, that feeling of spaciousness you get in the countryside or in nature. But I was also very lucky to have been placed in a part of the country where one has to struggle politically and socially in order to grow, and actually to exist at all. So I was brought into contact with people and movements and with forces for change in society, and I could not help but grow. It was just inevitable that if I looked out and saw people in all their radiant fighting beauty, then I would just be struck with love for them.

Iím so happy that I lived in Mississippi for seven years, because each day I could see these warriors, who were really the least of everybody. They were poor, they could be thrown off their land, they could be jailed, they were often shotóyou know, lynching was not uncommon. And there they were: they would stand up to anyone and hold their ground, insist that they were children of God, and that they had a right to exist. This was incredibly humbling, and I just found myself loving them without reservation.

The thing about love that Iíve discovered in my life is that one love leads to another. It just gets bigger and bigger. You can let it start anywhere; it can be really tiny. You can start with a flower, but if you sincerely see it and if you sincerely love it, then itís like the key. The flower is like a key to a big, big, big storeroom. Then everything becomes something that is lovable.

Sharon Salzberg:
You describe the naturalness of it all. I guess the problem is that weíve forgotten, or weíve got out of touch. Itís not so much a practice to get more loving, but to remember more, and to feel more safe and confident in our ability to love.

Alice Walker:
Yes, and also to see the good even in the midst of the dreadful. That has always been very powerful to me. Iíve known so many people in my life who were almost split in half, good and bad. You could see them doing something that was just horrendous and despicable on Tuesday. And then on Wednesday, you would see them drop all of that and stand up to incredible forces of oppression and despair, and call upon something very deep within themselves that was really precious.

Sharon Salzberg:
Itís like the creation of the other, even within oneself. We donít incorporate all aspects of our being into this loving space, and so itís that much easier to dishonor others and to feel so separate.

Alice Walker:
I think you have to really work at it, to see the good, and sometimes you do it in such peculiar and maybe perverse ways. For me, I have had to recognize a real fear of Germans. When I travel through Germany I feel afraid, and all of that. But I made myself get a German car, and I really liked it a lot. It was perfectly smooth and wonderful and it made me think about Germans in a different way. I didnít think about them killing people in concentration camps. I kind of thought about them on the car level, the Mozart car-making level, something very beautiful and very efficient also, in a positive way. I think we have to own the fears that we have of each other, and then, in some practical way, some daily way, figure out how to see people differently than the way weíve been brought up to do.

Melvin McLeod:
Is there also a healthy type of anger or outrage that is compatible with, or perhaps even a companion to, loving-kindness? Could this be the sense of the power of loving-kindness that Sharon referred to originally?

Alice Walker:
Creativityófor me, that is where the power is, that is where the healing is. Even if you donít consider yourself an artist, to make something that is beautiful and not destructive, or to make something that is useful and not destructive, that is the healing power of the artist. For me, as someone who spends so much time in solitude, it has been about making actual objectsómaking stories and making quilts. And making friends with somebody, thatís very good. And we all together make political movements; we make change in society.

One of our big problems is that we live in a culture that bombards us with destructive images that are killing us. I think that children are battered so badly by destructive, negative images from television, mainly, and the movies, that they often have no idea that they can create in a way that is not destructive. They actually think that creation itself is destructive. Thatís a terrible place for us to find ourselves, where our children believe that.

Sharon Salzberg:
Maybe the power weíre talking about is the clarity of truth telling and clear seeing. I would hate to call it the positive aspect of anger, but maybe it has some of the energy of anger.

Alice Walker:
I love ďclear seeing.Ē It is such a wonderful phrase. It just gets right to it, that you try to see things as clearly as they are. Then you try to express them to yourself, and then to the world, as clearly as you can. This, I think, is really the only hope. Because itís as if this world is constructed almost entirely of lies, and so we canít help but be lost. We are floundering about, trying to find the path, and they have deliberately said east where itís west, north where itís south, up where itís down, green where itís blue. And all the time they are wrong. These signposts have been deliberately put on the path to send us off somewhere else. So clear seeing, clear speakingóthat is our responsibility.

Sharon Salzberg:
Itís also feeling the truth of our own experience, because being cut off from our own suffering, itís that much harder to open to the pain of others.

Alice Walker:
Thatís why itís good to be a writer, or to be a poet, because you can at least offer your own truth. Iíve had the experience of writing about incest, wife beating, child molestation, female genital mutilation, all kinds of things, and having people say, this could not possibly exist, and even if it does, why would you want to tell us? And at some point you stop really caring whether it makes other people uncomfortable, because, as the Buddhists say, this is just basic human stuff (laughs). Essentially, your experience, whatever it is, is human stuff. And for people to pretend they donít know what it is, or that itís so shocking somebody said it, this is another signpost that says East instead of West. Because deep in your heart, you recognize what is human when you see it.

Sharon Salzberg:
In your novel, The Temple of My Familiar, Carlotta says to Fanny, well, maybe the problem is too large for anger. The way you phrased it in ďMy Life as MyselfĒ is that maybe itís too big not to forgive. That sense of bigness is, I think, a spiritual understanding which is totally inclusive. Itís not separate from whatís happening, or trying to get beyond it, or transcend it in some way.

Alice Walker:
I think that with me, I do realize itís pretty messy all around. Lots of suffering, lots of pain. And I have just decided that there are places where I feel I am uniquely suited to be, and causes that just fit. Causes where I feel I understand some of what itís about, where I feel I can actually do this without being insulting or ignorant or unhelpful.

I work on what I am able to work on, more or less joyously. When I tackle something like female genital mutilation, I think about one child at a time, and I try not to think about a hundred million people. I canít really think about all of them in their collectivity. I have to just try to go after one child who has a possibility of not being harmed, if I speak out now. And I go into that with a real light heart. Itís very heavy, but because Iím off my couch, my heart is fairly light.

And thatís it. I give to the extent that I can, and then I sit back and I eat tomatoes. And I enjoy them, and I look out at the landscape and I love it, and I walk and I go swimming and I love being alive, and I enjoy my life. And then when I get my strength back, I go out again. Thatís all I can do, and I do it with such happiness. Itís not in any way a strain, and when it gets to be a strain, I just take a nap. But itís good for me.

Sharon Salzberg:
That reminds me of something out of the classical Buddhist tradition, that at the time of the Buddha, the Buddha would smile, throw a flower, or say three words, and 50,000 people would get enlightened. And it doesnít happen that way these days. I asked one of my teachers once, why not? And he said, itís basically because we canít open up to the suffering all at once. We have to do it gradually. Itís not the point to suffer; itís the opening thatís the point. It is that lightheartedness, that bigness, that spacious mind and love that can hold the suffering and accommodate it and integrate it and understand it. Itís not just to suffer and be broken by it.

Alice Walker:
Iíve had this experience where I go somewhere, and even on the way, Iíll be thinking, oh no, itíll be so rough, how can I stand it? Then Iíll get there, and Iíll be with the people, and sure enough, theyíll be up against some incredible madness, and Iíll just find myself getting happier and happier and happier. And weíll all look at each other, and weíll be grinning and grinning and grinning, and by the time itís over, whatever it is, we will have decided that this was absolutely the high point of life. And so thereís that to be experienced.

Unfortunately, we live in a time when people think that if their activism is not some huge, grand thing, that if theyíre not some great hero like the ones who have been assassinated already, then what they have to offer is not good enough. Just by writing a letter, for instance, or teaching somebody how to vote, or picking up litter in a neighborhood where picking up litter is unknown, you can influence people. You may feel that, well, this is so small, Iíd like to do it but what is it? But the tiniest thing can be very powerful and very beautiful, and itís something that one should do for oneself. Thatís the whole point of it. Itís not to clean up someone elseís neighborhood, or feed their children, and just do it for them. It is really for you too; that is where your happiness is.

Sharon Salzberg:
Itís so healing to recognize our connection. Iíve received a lot from people who had very little, and that has been an awesome experience. Like going to a country such as Burma to practice meditation, where every single meal is offered to us by people who are sometimes just dressed in rags. Theyíre so happy for the chance to have fed you, and they have nothing. To receive so much from them is beautiful.

Alice Walker:
Also, Sharon, you know what?

Sharon Salzberg:
What?

Alice Walker:
They are quite aware that they have everything and you have nothing.

Sharon Salzberg:
Thatís true too.

Alice Walker:
Youíre the one who left home to come to Burma.

Sharon Salzberg:
Yes, thatís very true. And sometimes when we do something small, we have no idea where itís going to lead anyway.

Alice Walker:
Never. And also thereís just the joy of beginning.

Melvin McLeod:
Iíd like to go back, Ms. Walker, to your ability to maintain a light heart. I saw part of a documentary on female genital mutilation, and it included an actual scene of a young girl undergoing some sort of terrible excision of her genitalia. The child was screaming, and I was completely shaken. I couldnít watch it. So when youíve seen that sort of thing, as you have, how do you not get your heart broken, on one hand, and on the other hand, not be completely enraged at the people doing it?

Alice Walker:
I think you feel all of that, and you just donít stay there. Once again, here it isóthe most horrible thing in the world is happening, but by some miracle you are there at the beginning of seeing that it stop. So how could you not be lighthearted? I mean, ultimately. But itís very difficult, I know. When I was in Africa, I was walking alongóthis was after a whole long line of young girls had been mutilatedóand I couldnít watch it. And out of nowhere there was a little girl, I guess maybe three or four years old, who just came up to me. Sheíd never seen me before, and she just took my hand, and we walked along holding hands for a little distance. All I could think was, Iím doing this for other children, but weíre not starting in time to save this particular child. And Iím telling you, it almost just drove me under the ground.

At the same time, I think, well, I am here to help. Iím here with all of the skill that I have acquired as a writer, and all the love that I feel for the people here, and all the love that I feel for myself and my connections to the people of Africa. So I felt like it was okay. Itís better to start, even when things are so dire, then to be sitting home not starting.

Melvin McLeod:
This reminds me of Chögyam Trungpa Rinpocheís image of the ďGreat Eastern Sun,Ē which refers to the fact that in every situation, no matter how difficult, there is always the possibility of going forward, toward waking up, toward helping others. This situation seems exactly the definition of warriorship, that you can see the possibility of going forward, even while your heart is broken.

Alice Walker:
You know, what are hearts for? Hearts are there to be broken, and I say that because that seems to be just part of what happens with hearts. I mean, mine has been broken so many times that I have lost count. But it just seems to be broken open more and more and more, and it just gets bigger. I remember saying to my therapist, ďYou know, my heart by now feels open like a suitcase. It feels like it has just sort of dropped open, you know, like how a big suitcase just falls open. It feels like that.Ē

Instead of that feeling of having a thorn through your heart, that feeling Pema Chödrön talks about in tonglen meditation, you have a sense of openness, as if the wind could blow through it. And thatís the way Iím used to my heart feeling. The feeling of the heart being so open that the wind blows through it. I think that is the way itís supposed to feel when youíre in balance. And when you get out of balance, you feel like thereís no wind, thereís no breeze, thereís just this rock and it has a big thing sticking through it. I donít know how you get from one feeling to the other, except through meditation, often, but also activism, just seeing what needs to be done in the world, or in our families, and just start doing it.

Sharon Salzberg:
I think open heart comes from a sense of community, and it can come from a meditation practice, or both ideally. Because when thereís a central connection with others, thatís also the source of joy. Realizing that whatís happening to those little girls is not different from me, not other than me. Inevitably, itís awful and oneís angry and terrified, but at the same time, that connection itself is the joy, that open suitcase heart.

Alice Walker:
I donít know where that suitcase image came from (laughs), but now that I think of it, a suitcase is something that you also fill up again and move on off with (laughs). So it doesnít stay empty. Itís also portable.


Alice Walker is the author of The Way Forward Is with a Broken Heart, published by Random House. She won the Pulitzer Prize in 1983 for her novel The Color Purple.


Sharon Salzberg is a Buddhist teacher and co-founder of the Insight Meditation Society. She is author of Lovingkindness: The Revolutionary Art of Happiness and A Heart as Wide as the World, and is the editor of Voices of Insight.
 
Start with a Flower, Alice Walker & Sharon Salzberg, Shambhala Sun, November 2000.

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