Topic: Relationships

Aging: Everybody’s Doing It

A guest post by Susan Moon, author of “This is Getting Old,” from our September 2010 issue.

My granddaughter says she’s three and three quarters. She wants full credit for her maturity. Practicing her attitude, I’ll tell you I’m 67 and five twelfths. I want full credit, too; I’m growing up!
The posters in the Gray Panthers [...]

Wash Your Bowl: Marc Lesser on bringing your relationships, work, and life alive

In this guest post, Zen priest, CEO, husband, dad — and author of Less: Accomplishing More By Doing Less – Marc Lesser reminds us of one simple (and yet easy to forget!) fact: that it is up to us to look within ourselves and to bring our work and our lives alive.

Sit-a-Long with Jundo — and family

Well, it is summer vacation season, and this week my wife and I have eight relatives from the U.S. visiting us in Japan for the first time. It is quite a diverse group, including my older sister and her husband, a teenage boy and two six year olds. So, I have been taking them [...]

This weekend: Explore The Wisdom of Anger with Norman Fischer, Narayan Liebenson Grady, Judy Lief, and Robert Thurman

Our fourth annual collaboration with Omega Institute brings four accomplished Buddhist teachers together to show you positive ways to understand and experience anger — your own, and that of others as well.
Join Norman Fischer, Narayan Liebenson Grady, Judy Lief, and Robert A.F. Thurman — along members of the Shambhala Sun staff — at Omega for [...]

Sit-a-Long with Jundo: Thank You, Difficult People

Almost any group we belong to — the workplace, family, even a Buddhist sangha — will have some folks we consider “difficult people,” individuals who rub us the wrong way or seem to make things hard. But, it is important for us to remember that difficult people are Buddha, that they are all teaching us. [...]

The yin and the yang: Thanissara and Kittisaro on balancing spiritual work and social activism (Part 2)

In this second installment of Leslee Goodman’s interview with former Buddhist monastics Thanissara and Kittisaro, the conversation begins with a discussion of the unequal treatment of bhikkhuni, (nuns in the Theravadan tradition in Thailand), and continues to give us a glimpse of the personal lives of two people who are [...]

The yin and the yang: Thanissara and Kittisaro on balancing spiritual work and social activism (Part 1)

In a new interview exclusive to SunSpace, former Buddhist monastics Thanissara — who contributed to The Time Has Come, Buddhadharma magazine’s current discussion of the second-class status of Buddhist nuns — and Kittisaro talk about the marriage of Buddhist practice and social activism. Part One follows here.

By Leslee Goodman
Former Buddhist monk Kittisaro [...]

So your parents are crazy

Acknowledging that your parents are normal people — just like the jerks you work with or your own bossy spouse — and that they too are on a path of growth, can ease your mind a bit. A guest-post by Lodro Rinzler
There comes a time in any young man or woman’s life when [...]

Love Without Fear: Building Fearless Relationships

A guest post by Brenda Shoshanna, Ph.D (author of Religions of Kindness, from our July 2010 issue).
Today fear is rampant in all areas of our lives. There are many ways we seek safe harbor, a place to feel protected and cared for. Many turn to relationships for this, to experience security and comfort. Then, a [...]

Sylvia Boorstein: “Mentors: Spiritual Friends Help Guide the Way” (Plus links to all of Sylvia’s contributions to the Shambhala Sun)

In this excerpt from the “Going It Alone: Making It Work as an Unaffiliated Buddhist” section of the Spring 2010 issue of Buddhadharma, Sylvia Boorstein looks at the hallmarks of real spiritual friendship.
Two of my most significant ongoing practice opportunities are dedicated commitments with friends who live time zones away and whom I rarely meet [...]

Sit-a-Long with Jundo: A Married Monk?!?

My wife and son have joined me on these “sit-a-longs” from time to time, and this has caused a few folks to write me expressing some surprise. “Hey, how can a ‘monk’ have a wife? I thought Buddhist priests were all supposed to be celibate?”
(Click through for more, and to “Sit-A-Long” with today’s video.) [...]

Video: Watch the trailer for Karen Maezen Miller’s new book, “Hand Wash Cold”

We’re happy to share with you this book trailer for Hand Wash Cold: Care Instructions for an Ordinary Life, by frequent Sun contributor (and blogger) Karen Maezen Miller.

Big congrats to Karen on the book, which officially comes out next week. For more, check out this interview with Karen from her publisher, New World Library — [...]

Shambhala Sun Spotlights: now reorganized and updated for hours of free reading

Our Spotlight pages — sometimes called “Special Sections” (though, no longer) — have been updated to include material related to our May 2010 issue, in addition to other articles on just about every other subject “under the Sun.”
New collections of material include:  Beginner’s Mind: Basics of Buddhism and Meditation; Helping Tibet: An Online Resource Guide; [...]

Love, Scientific American style

By Alan Brush
Psychologist Robert Epstein showcased a scientific approach to love at an event sponsored by Scientific American magazine. On March 10 in Manhattan, a group of total strangers had a chance to try out a “technology” for enhancing feelings of love and closeness. They did exercises such as “soul gazing” or repeating “I love you,” [...]

An Interview with Dani Shapiro, author of Devotion, A Memoir

By Teresa Burns Gunther
Dani Shapiro is the author of five novels and the bestselling memoir, Slow Motion. In her new memoir, Devotion, Shapiro takes a literary journey into the essential questions of her life. Finding herself at midlife, she was troubled to realized that she still had more questions than answers. Her questions, and those [...]